Transcript for 5 Small Habits That Will Change Your Life Forever

Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast. You know, what I'm out and about, and I have the absolute honor of loving into you and other listeners of this podcast. After we go, oh my God, and then we hug and I love taking selfies with you. There are two things that you always end up telling me. The first one is how much you love this podcast and the difference that it's making, which is so great to hear. And the second thing that you always share is you bring up the episode that made the biggest difference in your life. And I love getting that feedback from you. And I started to notice that you all like the same episodes. And you keep bringing up the names of the same experts. And I want you to keep on telling me, by the way, what episode you love, what experts that you love, and so I decided that I would take a look at those episodes that you're referring to and check back in on some of those experts and package up five of the best pieces of advice that you loved that I loved and that's what we're going to do today. And this is so exciting what you're about to listen to today that I think I might do this every quarter because we cover so many amazing topics and we meet so many experts that we're learning from. Even though I'm the one that's sitting in the interview chair, I love being reminded of the best of the best. And so today, you are going to get five pieces of advice from experts on this podcast that you have loved and commented on and shared. And you're going to be reminded of things that you loved. And if you're brand new, welcome to the Mel Robbins podcast family. I want you to know something. You're not behind it all. In fact, you have tuned into the perfect episode. But if you've been listening for a long time, you're going to love this because you're going to remind you of how much power you have to make simple changes that are backed by the research that impact your life almost immediately. So I want to tell you a little bit about how I selected the five pieces of advice that you're going to hear today. And I also want to thank you because you helped me. See, this is what we did. My team and I, we looked at all the data on YouTube. We looked at what you watched. We looked at your favorite and most replayed moments. We then dove into the podcast data. And we were looking for what advice did you like? What episodes inspired you to make changes? What episodes inspired you to report back to me the specific actions that you were taking to leave reviews? What were the experts that you shared most with your friends and your family? And so today, without further ado, but I feel like I need a drum roll. Our conversation today is going to inspire you with some of the best advice that I've heard in the last 12 months and that you've heard too. We're going to cover some of the top five pillars of creating a fulfilling life. You're going to start off with a 10-day health reset from a renowned functional medical doctor. Next, you will get the trick that a Harvard psychologist uses to stop anxiety. You're then going to hear life-changing advice on money from the single best financial expert you could ever meet who also, by the way, said some of the most profound things that I've ever heard on this podcast. You loved her so much and so did I. And then you're going to move on to a hilarious and tactical strategy for displaying more confidence from a CIA FBI-trained body language expert. You're also going to learn how to tell when someone's lying to you and finally. You and I are going to end on an even higher note with one of your favorite guests of all time. An 86 year old powerhouse who is sharing her specific strategies to longevity and out of live a more meaningful life. Let's do this. I love this time of year because we're all thinking about goals and priorities and what we want. But have you added take a vacation to the list because you should and right now is the perfect time to plan your trip and all you need is one website. Say hello to Expedia, one stop shop for killer vacation planning. Expedia literally has every tool and everything you need to plan a great trip. Download the Expedia app or visit Expedia.com to start planning. You do need to be a one-key member to use price tracking, signing up is easy and free. Expedia made to travel. I never thought I'd be sitting here telling you that I'm learning French. I mean, seriously, I'm so dyslexic, I didn't think I could ever attempt to learn language, but Resetestone is making it happen just in time for this Paris trip that I've planned with my daughters to celebrate my 50th birthday. Resetestone is a most trusted language learning app. It's available on desktop. It can be used as an app or on your phone or tablet. Don't put off learning that language. There's no better time than right now to get started. For a limited time, the Mel Robbins podcast listeners can get Resettistone's lifetime membership for 50% off. Visit Resettistone.com slash mal. That's Resettistone.com slash mal. Hey, it's Mel, and I am so happy that you decided to listen to this particular episode today. You're going to love it because today I'm sharing five pieces of science supported research back advice from some of those popular experts that have appeared on the Mel Robbins podcast in the last 12 months. Now, this is advice that has changed my life. And it's also changed the lives of listeners around the world, listeners who are just like you. And if you take a chance And you give the advice to try, I guarantee you you are going to feel the impact and it's going to help you create a better life. First up, we're going to cover a 10-day health reset that will change your life from the inside out. Dr. Mark Hyman is a renowned functional medical doctor and he set this sentence on the podcast. Holy cow, when he said this, it made you and me both lean in. He said, you are only days away from optimal health. I'm going to say that again. You are only days away from optimal health. And in the clip that you're about to hear, Dr. Mark Hyman will explain the research that supports this fact. that you're only days away from optimal health. I mean, how cool is that? Then he's going to walk you through his 10-day health recent. Now, this is the protocol that he has researched over the years and that he uses with his patients in his private practice. Let me tell you a little bit about Dr. Iman before we jump into the advice that he shared. He is a medical doctor who is the head of strategy and innovation at the Cleveland Clinic Center for Functional Medicine. He is the founder and medical director of the Ultra Wellness Center and he is written. 14 New York Times bestselling books and his 10-day health reset is one of the most viewed clips on my YouTube channel. It's also one of the most popular pieces of advice that anyone has ever shared on the Mel Robbins podcast. So let me set up what you're about to hear. Dr. Hyman has just shared this medical fact that your body is designed to heal itself. And you're going to hear me reacting to that and then asking him to explain what that means. And this is important because when you realize that your body is designed to heal itself, you'll understand exactly how his 10-day health reset that he's going to explain to you, activates your body's natural healing capabilities so that you can tap into optimal health. So let's go to that clip where you're going to hear me asking Dr. Hyman to tell you about our body's intelligent design and the ability it has to heal itself. Dr. Hyman, you just said something that really struck me, which is that every single one of us are bodies. has an intelligent healing system built into it. And I immediately thought about the fact that, you know, we all know instinctively that if you cut your hand, your body knows how to heal itself. Exactly.

Yeah. And so can you just expand upon that for somebody who is never considered? that concept that your body is designed when you know how to take care of it to heal itself. What the hell does that even mean?

We're only a few days. away from feeling better.

So what is the 10 day? Like, just give us simple rules that you want everybody listening to try. This is a dare.

You said that very fat.

What the hell worked? The broccoli broccoli.

other served.

So I want to stop you real quick because you posted something two days ago.

That said, that was, I'd never really thought about it this way. And it was, you'll probably say it better than me, but it was, it was a very simple post that was like, um, the food that you eat impacts every, oh, your cells, your brain cells, like all of this stuff, your skin that all is continuing to grow. It doesn't just grow out of thin air. it, it actually is impacted and grows from the raw materials that you get. And so would you rather have cells that are made from a bag of Doritos or cells made from a salad or a piece of fish? And when you boil it down that way, like holy cow, what I put in my mouth is what I become.

Wow, what are the top things that people should in this kind of 10-day window stop eating?

Well, what's the universal one? It's no gluten.

Do you have any fun?

Yeah, I can see you. Yeah, I can see you.

I love that he said it's not your fault. And you know what else I loved? Was this moment when he, one of the most respected, functional medical doctors on the entire planet made you the expert of your own health. And I hope you will take him at his word that you take this experiment on because Dr. Hyman just demystified how you can tap into the intelligent design and your body's natural healing process to tap into optimal health. And here's what else I loved. This cost you zero dollars. I love the fact that the cells of your body do not grow out of thin air, but they grow from the raw materials that you feed it. I mean, it blew my mind. You're going to have to eat. Would your rather have your cells that are made from a bag of Doritos or a salad and really good protein? I hope that information sticks with you forever, the way that it has for me. And if you want to learn more about how to reset your health in 10 days, I really want you to take the time to listen to that entire episode with Dr. Mark Hyman. Now that episode is linked in the description, along with all of the episodes that I'm going to share with you today. And as always, if you look at the description, on whatever platform you're watching this episode on or listening to the podcast. You're going to see a link that takes you to the resources page that has links to all the experts, the studies, all of that is on our website for you. But the episode itself, it's just link below in the description. I wanted to make it easier for you. Alright, now that you know where you can find the episodes and you also know about your body's ability to heal itself and you also know how to do a 10-day health reset. That's just expert number one. We still got four more to go and next up you're going to learn the trick. that a Harvard psychologist uses to stop anxiety. And I want to take a quick break right now and give our fantastic sponsors the time they deserve because their support allows me to bring you all of this at zero cost. And when we come back, you and me, we're going to be diving into anxiety in a little later. We're getting into money. Confidence and longevity secrets and more. So don't you dare go anywhere. I'll be waiting for you after a short break. The Mel Robbins podcast is proudly sponsored by Amika Insurance, our exclusive insurance partner. Amika understands how important it is to protect the things that matter most to you. So they'll put in the time to make sure you're taking care of whether it's talking through all the details of your policy or following up after a claim. Your auto home and life insurance are more than just policies. Their protection for the life you've built. As Amika says, empathy is our best policy. go to amica.com and get a quote today. 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Now, Dr. Mark Simon just showed you how to activate your body's natural intelligence by doing a 10 day health reset. And now we're going to activate your ability to stop anxiety. with expert advice from Harvard's Dr. Luana Marquez. Now, Dr. Luana appeared on two incredible episodes of the Mel Robbins podcast, and you absolutely love her. So do I. And I love everything that she shares with you and with me. Dr. Luana has this remarkable and inspiring story of how she went from being poverty-stricken in Brazil to becoming a professor of psychiatry at Harvard. Now, she is a clinical practice, and is also on the staff at Mass General Brigham, which is the number one ranked research hospital in the world for over a decade. And what you and I both loved about Dr. Luana, is that, well, yeah, she's the world leading Harvard-Drained Expert, no big deal. Her advice is also simple, which means it can be applied easily into your own life, even when you or a loved one is spiraling. So let me set up what you're about to hear. Because when she came to the studio to have this conversation, I was so excited to talk to her about how to stop an anxiety spiral. And what you're about to hear is a clip where Dr. Luana is not only going to give you the trick to stop anxiety, but she's going to use herself as an example. Because here's what happened. You're going to hear the story of her telling you that right before she walked into the studio and did the taping with me, she had an anxiety attack. And so she's going to tell you all about that and how she handled it. So let's jump into one of your favorite clips from that episode where I've just asked Dr. Luana, so how do you stop a panic attack?

Can we take the example of you waking up? And not wanting to get out of bed.

So what do you tell your patients to do when they catch themselves in this ping-pong death match with their anxious thoughts?

Okay, so did you get that everyone? When the thoughts start to spiral, and you or someone that you love, And you feel that anxiety avalanche that Dr. Luana just described coming on. Number one, you need to create a pause. And here's one way you can do it. Take out a piece of paper and write the thought, write the emotion that you feel and write the behavior that it is triggering. And Dr. Luana's example, the thought is Mel's not going to like me. And then that made her feel nervous. And then that feeling makes her want to pull the covers over her head.

I love what she said about you and me and how we have these little corners where we hide. It's so true, isn't it? How anxiety or nervousness or fear or panic or imposter syndrome can keep you in that little corner? How often you can find yourself avoiding? Not only experiences in life, but avoiding your potential and the potential of your life. I know exactly what she's talking about and I know you do too because that was one of the most popular things that she said because anxiety is something that I've struggled with for a very long time and it does make you shrink. So don't forget the trick. Create the pause. Write it down. Get it out of your head because when it's on paper, you're not going to spiral. When you create the pause, you step out of your little corner. And when you stop avoiding the things that scare you, you unleash that potential. And with the rise in anxiety that is so well documented today, especially in teenagers and young adults, this is an episode and the resources that Dr. Luana shares This is something I hope you share with people in your life because they work. And Dr. Luan is two episodes on the podcast are wonderful resources for you. So if you go into the description, you're going to find links to those two episodes featuring Dr. Luanah. Please, please, please take the time to listen to them and more importantly. Share them with somebody who needs this information. Share them with somebody who needs this support, okay? Because we're talking world class, Harvard, Dr. Luana, private session level support with those episodes. All righty, let's move on to a topic that gives you anxiety, which is money. And I gotta be honest, I had been avoiding talking about money on the podcast for a long time. And let me tell you why. I thought it'd be a total snooze fest. I mean, come on, financial planning. boring and I personally, I don't know if you feel this way, but I feel this way. There's a lot of financial experts out there that are so freaking condescending and they speak in jargon and it's sort of like you should know this. So I'm like, we don't need to talk about money. Well, then, I found Tiffany, Alijay. Chuck Cheng, baby, holy smokes. She not only brought the money, she brought the energy and the fun. She is so fantastic. Oh, we could not stop talking about her. And she got you and me excited about making a budget. Who gets excited about making a budget? You and I did, after hearing from Tiffany Elyche, Tiffany Elyche is the money expert. You love her. She is also known as the Budgenista. She's a New York Times bestselling author. She has helped more than 2 million people, just like you. Save, manage, and pay off massive debt. If there's anybody in your life who you think needs to get better with money, you better stop talking about them and share this episode with them. Let Tiffany set the record straight. because this is not your usual make a man jet instinct talent advice. Tiffany's take on money will help you see your money in a completely different way so that you understand how to make more of it and save it with ease. Now she's also been there. She's been there in terms of being underwater with loads of bills to pay and no job. She was the victim of a scam like unbelievable story. And that's also why she comes to the table with so much compassion for you because she knows just how overwhelming fans can be. And she also has this snack. Ooh, I love people like this. This snack for explaining boring things like budgets. news fest and bills. I don't want to talk about that. But she has a way of talking about it that makes you just want to hear her keep talking. And she makes you feel like you're an expert too. And so when she came on the Mel Robbins podcast, one of the very first questions I asked her was about budgeting because I hate budgeting. and I freaking love the analogy she gave. And by the way, this was one of your all-time favorite clips to you just kept coming back to this over and over and over again, especially on YouTube. So listen to what Tiffany Leachay has to say about the topic of budgeting.

I like the name money list. What does a money list mean? Okay. I love this reframe because I hear the word budget and I hear no in restriction. And you're saying no. that the budget is how you say yes to what's important.

So for somebody hearing you say that and they're like, but I've never made a budget or I've never stuck to one. I don't know what my budget should be. Like, where do you begin?

Here we go. Money in money out. But is the list a list of everything in one month that is going out the door? Yes. And everything in the month that is coming in the door.

or any of those things you don't even really think, oh my God, I got that bill.

And so Let's say you've done that, right? And you've made the money list. And you see what's coming in and what's coming out here, like faced with the reality. Yeah. Tears and tissues. Yes. And you see that you are outspending every month. What's actually coming in. What is the next step?

Never return the lights on in this house. Get the candles.

And give me an example. I know that sounds like a basic question, but is your mortgage a bill?

Think about that. like when you're like a standing at Walmart or before and you're like, yeah, like 10% off this and then you're like, oh wait, that's a credit card. Yes, that's a bill.

So your student loan does not have a U. Your mortgage or rent does not have a U. But water. Water.

the fact that in today's world, particularly for people who are in their 20s and 30s, that social media has become like shopping with a click. And you and I had to leave our house to go spend money back in the day. And when I think about TikTok or Instagram, every other freaking suggested thing has a shop now, but stuff gets sent to your house. And have you seen a big increase because you've been doing this for a while in people in the spending category that spending has gotten so easy because of social media. It's always in your face. You always see what you're missing out on. There's an influencer that has the product for free who's like, this change my life. Oh, quick, quick, quick. It's 11 30 at night. Yeah. So do you see

Yes. Which is these Amazon shops. Like, like, and click through to my Amazon thing. So I got that for free.

Hi, guilty. I do want to eat cereal out of an aesthetically pleasing glass container. Thank you, Tiffany, for calling me out. And don't you just love how she can make you laugh at yourself and also learn about the right thing to do with money at the exact same time? It's sort of like she's saying, you're smarter than that. And you're like, yeah, you're right. I am. I am. She is the real deal when it comes to getting your finances together and empowering yourself in this important area of your life. and her episode is absolutely the one you need to listen to next if you haven't heard the whole thing because budgeting is just the beginning. She was equally fantastic on all the other topics that she taught us about in that episode. She shares the five rules of money to help you build credit payoff debt increase your income and have more money in the bank. But even more than that. Her episode is so deeply insightful and meaningful. It's going to surprise you. It will move you and it will help you live a richer life and make sure you listen all the way until the end because there is a very surprising twist because Tiffany reflects on something personal and becomes very emotional. And she talks about the profound connection between your life, the role that money plays into it, and what actually matters. And I didn't play that part for you because it is so moving. And it comes at the end of this amazing and empowering episode that I really hope you will take the time to listen to and that you will share with the people that you love. Because the end just hits you in the heart with this level of urgency about what's important in life. And it would be lost if I just played that part for you at a context right now. But like every other episode I mentioned today, the link to her full episode is waiting for you, like a gift. It's right in the description. You can click right on the link and on the title, and there is a gift that you can give to yourself. And you know who else is waiting for you? Her sponsors. So let's take a quick listen to the amazing brands that bring you the Mel Robbins podcast. And then they'll be someone else waiting for you.

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When with steeple people, we intimidate people. Janine, I love that tip and I want to go even deeper into it. If you're listening to me right now and you're not watching on YouTube, let me just explain this because I want to be sure that you got this. Janine is placing the finger tips of both hands together. So you can do this by just put your palms together, almost like you're praying. And now keep your fingertips together and spread the actual hands and your palms apart, right? So you're arching your hands so that the tips of the fingers look like a church steeple. Got it? Good. And now the next time you're with your boss or your professor or someone is talking over you or a jerk who isn't giving you the respect that you need or you're on your first date with that person you met on hinge, just lean back and do the steeple. Now I love the steeple, but Janine was just getting warmed up. Here's another fantastic tip that she shared with you for displaying confidence. You're going to use this one when you walk into a room or when you're sitting at a table or a desk. Janine wants you to think of one of the Avengers. So let's jump back into the episode for this next tip on how to look and display more confidence.

Oh my gosh, I love this stuff where the wall meets the ceiling is a confident feeling. I don't know about you, but I got my chest up that orb that iron man thing. I am pointing it up where the wall meets the ceiling. It feels great. You got to try this and guess what? Jennings not done because while she's busy teaching you and I had a steeple and how to put the orb up toward the ceiling, she is now going to move right into lying and how you can tell if people are lying to you. Don't you want to know that? I sure do. She said people are lying to you when they use a technique called eye blocking. And I want you to hear about what I blocking is from Janine Driver. And in order to set up this clip, especially if you're listening to this, I just want to tell you that in the clip, she's going to be using the example of a cell phone. And so if you're listening, just picture her using a cell phone. And when she makes this reference about a cell phone that she has in her hand, she's going to mention a screen saver. You know, that thing that happens where all of a sudden the lock screen comes on your phone and then you got to put your password in to unlock it, that's what she's referring to. Okay. So let's hear Janine describe what I blocking is and how you know if someone's lying.

Thank you, Janine. Now we know what to look for. And I'll tell you one of the big things that this has had on my life in terms of the impact. I make sure I don't do it. You know, I think oftentimes you hear these tips and you constantly are scanning everybody else. You want to make sure that you're also not breaking eye contact that you're not eye blocking so that you convey trust and authority. Now, if you love these tips, you can listen to all of the interview with Janine after you finish listening to this episode, which again, linked in the description with all the episodes that we've mentioned so far. And because she has so many tips, I really, really encourage you to check that out when you have some time. Because you're going to learn, for example, why you should grab your chin during a high level meeting. You'll learn the million dollar question that you should ask at the end of every single interview, and why you should never sit directly across from someone on a first date. Ooh, that's kind of interesting. I wonder why not? You're going to find out. Okay. The final and fifth piece of advice that you loved from the experts on the Mel Robbins podcast. This last one was delivered by one of my favorite guests, and she also happens to be my mother-in-law. Judy Robbins is an 86-year-old powerhouse and I guarantee you what she does in a day, runs circles around what you or I do in a week. She has more energy than a 16-year-old, and she's smart as a whip, and the woman still wears a bikini. She is so physically fit that I embarrass myself when I stand next to her in a bar class because she always has her heavier weights than I do. And I sweat more than she does. You absolutely loved Judy. You loved this episode. You wanted more and more and more from her and her secrets to living a long, happy, healthy, fulfilling, purposeful and fun life. You just watched them over and over on YouTube. And one of the things that she talked about that really struck a chord was specific things that she's done to avoid loneliness. even though she's been a widow or for more than 20 years. Now, you wanted to know all about her daily routines in particular. You kept playing this clip about her morning routine, over and over and over again. So here is my 86-year-old mother-in-law, Judy Robbins, telling you what she does in the morning. And I have no doubt you will live longer and be happier if you do this too. What's a day in the life of Judy Robbins look like?

Oh, you have an emergency? Yeah. Okay.

You go through your mail on your phone. Yeah. Oh, you mean your email? Yeah. You might even exact opposite of what I tell people to do, by the way, keep going.

I think you're just not my. Now you touch your first thing on the second to your thumb on.

Well, I don't doubt it. I mean, if you listen to some of the brain experts, you're basically talking about what I believe is called, I'm going to forget the name. It's Nerobex. where you are combining an intentional thought with a physical movement. Oh, and it's one of the fastest ways to create new neural pathways. It's a whole field of study called neurobix. And that's what you're doing. You're basically carrying intentional thought with a physical movement of touching your each one of your fingers to your thumb. And what do you notice when you do it for yourself personally?

Or it's not in your mind. Okay.

Okay, like all together. Yeah, drizzler thing. That's similar to the farmers, switch, switch, switch, switch, switch, switch, switch or something like that that my grandmother used to drink in my mom drinks, which is hot water, apple cider vinegar, a little bit of honey and some lemon.

Okay, so now we've got our data.

Okay, now this I think is really important. How long have you walked five miles a day?

Talk about a casual brag. I mean, the woman is always flexing and not just her biceps. I stopped running when I was 75. I think I stopped running when I was 35. Oh my gosh, woman, is it a routine amazing? I know you loved it because you wrote more comments about it than almost any other episode in the last 12 months. And it was one of those episodes where almost every single person who listened stayed until the very, very end of it. That's how much you loved it. And look, You don't always stay until the end. That's cool. I know you got things to do. I still love you, but you stayed until the end for Judy. And I know why you did. Because it was the advice that you gave at the end of the episode about purpose and meaning that really hit you. It was incredible. And you were taken by surprise. In this clip, you're going to hear me ask her, what do you do when you're at a point in your life where you feel really lonely? And I thought her answer was one of the most beautiful things I had ever heard. Take a listen. We have a lot of people that write into this show who say they have no one. And if you were to talk directly to somebody who feels like they don't have anyone who loves them in their life because I'm always surprised by the number of people who write in about this. What would your advice be about how to get started without a skipping a beat?

That is such beautiful advice because we do start to look outside ourselves and look for other people to fill in need and what you're saying is the truth. Fill it for yourself first and the way to bring more love into your life is to give it to a perfect stranger and being part of the hospice community. That's an incredible piece of advice. So how do you stay young at heart? What do you think that's about?

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